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By Michelle Vasquez

Everyone wants a happier marriage yet few people know what to do to achieve it. So many times people look to their spouse to “complete” them instead of looking inside themselves to figure out how they can help their relationship thrive. Here are some ideas to get you started on the road to a happier marriage.

1. Overlook your spouse’s faults like you overlook your own. If you are honest with yourself, you will admit you have faults, just as everyone does. If you’re really honest with yourself, you will admit that you often overlook or dismiss your bad habits, while criticizing your spouse’s bad habits. Decide today to go easy on your spouse. Let go of the need to correct his faults and you may find him less critical of yours.

2. Decide what kind of day you want to have, and then create it. Yes, you can do this. A rainy day doesn’t make you have a “bad day.” You decide how to deal with things that are out of your control, like the weather, other people’s driving, your boss’s micromanaging, etc. You can choose misery or you can choose peace of mind.

It begins with what you tell yourself. For example: if it’s raining in the morning you can fret and tell yourself, “This is going to be a terrible day. I’ll get wet, people will drive like maniacs, and I’ll be late for work. This day is ruined.” Guess what? You’re right. Try this instead: “I am grateful for the rain. I’ll leave early for work and I’ll drive carefully. I can put on my favorite music and I’ll choose calm. This is a great day.” Your spouse will thank you when you decide what kind of day to have and her “bad mood” won’t bother you!

3. A kiss on the cheek at an unexpected time can create goodwill. If you have a habit of greeting your spouse with a friendly, “Where were you? Why didn’t you call? You said you were going to be here by 6:00,” take a deep breath and hold that thought. Try this instead: “I’m so glad to see you. How was your day?” then kiss him on the cheek and enjoy the rest of your evening together. Maybe your spouse will think you’ve gone crazy, but it will definitely be a change from the usual evening sparring match.

4. Always greet your spouse with a smile. Remember why you married her and let that warm feeling create your smile. Smiles are contagious; you’re likely to get one back when you practice this. When he calls you, answer the phone with a smile. You will feel differently when you smile and your spouse can hear your smile in your voice.

5. Add to this a bonus. Smiles and hugs go together like salt and pepper. We need human contact with the one we chose to marry. Hugs can melt away resentment and generate compassion. Virginia Satir, one of the key figures in the development of family therapy, declared that we need twelve hugs a day to maintain our mental health. How many hugs are you giving each other each day?

6. Always be the first to say, “I’m sorry,” even if you believe you were right (especially if you believe you are right). When you believe you are right and you’re willing to create distance between you and your spouse to hold onto your “rightness” you damage your relationship. Ask yourself if you want to win the argument or win the relationship. You can’t do both.

7. Make a daily habit of remembering what made you fall in love with him. If you only focus on your partner’s faults, you will quickly “fall out” of love. You can decide to focus on what you like and appreciate your spouse. This is not something to keep to yourself. Appreciate her and tell her. Daily. Appreciation has a wonderful benefit of coming back to you. People will do more for you when they realize you truly appreciate them and what they do.

8. Make blame an obsolete concept. It has no place in your marriage. Blame is so dangerous to the health of your marriage. Blame says you are a victim and your happiness is totally dependent on your spouse doing everything just the way you want it. Choose to take responsibility for what you can control: your own behavior. Before a blaming statement leaves your mouth, ask yourself what you can do to help your marriage.

9. Total honesty is not helpful. Discretion is better. Focusing on the good things you can say to each other is best. I think some people use the phrase “I’m just being honest” to say some pretty ugly things to each other. Sometimes people say they’re being honest, but they are really only expressing their opinion. Before you decide to say that “honest” thing to your spouse, think about how it will impact your relationship. Can you phrase it differently? Does it need to be said? Is it just your opinion? Think about it.

10. Ask yourself, “What can I do today that will bring me closer to the one I married?” Then do it. Keep it simple, using the examples above or creating your own. You have a creative mind and you can make this a daily habit. You will reap the benefits of a closer, happier marriage. Keep up these habits, building on them, and you can create the marriage of your dreams.

About the Author: Michelle E. Vasquez is a Relationship Coach and a Licensed Professional Counselor in San Antonio, TX. For more tips and tools to help you create relationships that bring you joy, visit http://www.michellevasquez.com and sign up for the free newsletter, Relationship Success, while you’re there.

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Are you a woman who follows your own beauty tips or do you usually take beauty advice from someone else such as people and beauty books and magazines.

With beauty, you must always take care of your skin, face, eyes, lips, nails and hair and you can’t forget your body as well.

Did you know that drinking eight glasses of water a day will rehydrate your skin and when you cleanse your skin, you should always use a foaming cleanser which is so much better for your skin with products such as beta hydroxy which provides a mild exfoliation that makes a small, but meaningful contribution in the battle against fine lines. So don’t get lazy when it comes to washing your face.

However, your beauty tips for yourself should never be a complicated thing and always buy essential products and techniques that should set you up for life and your make up should determine the best of the best with over so many make up and skin products to choose from.

Olay regenerist is one product that is so good because it contains a peptide that helps build collagen for your skin which is also a great moisturizer and Neutrogena is also great because it contains UV Ray filters with a very high SPF.

For your lips: Covergirl amazements is kind of like a lip miracle that looks great and goes great with your skin tone.

Note: Your skin products should be like your house keys, meaning you should never leave home without it.

When buying make up: You should always make sure that you buy good quality make up because any cosmetics could do double duty.

I’ve recently read about some hair myths and it was said that lemon works perfect for your hair because it gives you that shine and mayonnaise is used as a conditioner and avocoado as well and beer also works for your hair because it’s known as a a body builder for your fine tresses and you should always sleep with a satin pillow to prevent your hair from running flat and dry.

Although, a great make up job will play out your looks and make you look fabulous and maybe even enhance your looks and layering moisturizers will give your skin that lift, in other words: pop, define, and finish.

It’s a known fact that concealers always cover up your under eye darkness and puffiness around your eyes and making you look less tired with that droopy eye look that might just add years to your looks.

With clothing and dressing yourself: You should always wear nice high end clothing and shoes without breaking the bank with all of those affordable fashion pieces which is financially sound.

Now you can pear off your outfits with a little bit of sparkly jewelry because it’s all about the accessories to bring an outfit together.

know that: With any well tailored pair of jeans, a great pair of shoes will go great with it.

Now certain dresses speaks for itself so you won’t need any accessories at all to go with it and you can maintain a fabulous look with not that much money by shopping at affordable stores such as Target, H&M, Old Navy, The Gap, Forever 21, and all of those other high end designer shops that sells Manolos, Chanel, Gucci, Prada, and every other brand you can name with a fraction of the cost.

When dressing yourself: You have to respect yourself or even look like you do because you don’t want to walk around with a bad look and just keep up with those latest trends when you’re out shopping and when you want to meet a man and meeting Mr.Right isn’t going to happen when you’re dressing that wrong because what man do you know that’s going to take you serious when you’re dressing bad and you don’t want to wear any outdated clothing so focus on yourself because in all actuality men want to take a woman out if she’s definitely dressed the part because he will want to parade her around town and show her off becase a bad outfit is not so easy on the eyes.

So never do shirts that are too short or jeans that don’t fit right because you might want to really dress your body and in order to hook a hottie, you might want to dress nice at all times and it starts off with the right jeans and shoes and a bad outfit speaks a lot about a person so you’ll need to wear something that portrays you as a woman and that speaks confidence and every woman deserves to look beautiful.

So when it comes to beauty tips, fashion and style, and of course shopping for the latest trends, you deserve to always look good and giving yourself a vast improvement with a nice upgradable look that speaks WOW.

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